In April I saw on Perez Hilton blog his post about Kenneth Weishuhn Gay Iowa Teen who committed suicide. I wanted to know more so I Googled and it led me to Huffington Post. As I read further I was heart broken. but what I notice was a video by Tommy where he showed his frustration and true emotion on this subject. I knew that I had to interview him and be educated on the LGBT community.
KSY:Tell us a little bit about yourself?
T:. I am a 21 year old student studying business and spanish at the
University of Minnesota. I recently discovered that I wanted to start
cross dressing, both as a male and female. I have had a lot of great
experiences doing this and plan on continue doing so for the rest of my
life! I'm so bad at writing bios, there is so much to my life….. its
almost impossible to summarize it in a paragraph!
KSY:What is the different between people thinking they are gay and knowing (Explain)
T: I think the difference (especially when you are not openly out, in
school for example) is that people can and will always speculate, but
when you openly say that you are gay I believe a lot of the "fun" of
harassment and gossip will start to dwindle away. In other words, I
think that after coming out as homosexual a lot of people who may have
given you a hard time before start to back off. I think this happens for
two reasons - first, those who criticize and speculate may feel bad and
guilty for harassing someone who actually IS gay. Secondly, it takes a
lot of the fun out of it. It's fun for kids to try and expose others for
something they are hiding (especially if its really obvious). Coming
out and saying, "yes, i am gay" takes all the fun out of it for the
others. HOWEVER, coming out is a ridiculously scary and hard process.
There will always be the possibility of more harassment after coming
out. My biggest advice in regards to bullying is to take control of your
life and TELL SOMEONE what is going on.
KSY:You've have said that you wearing makeup is a self expression and it
has nothing to do with your sexuality can you explain what youmeant?
T: I believe that how you choose to display yourself (clothing, makeup,
etc) has nothing to do with your sexuality. For example, I happen to be a
gay male who wears makeup and women's clothing. However, there are many
straight males who decide to do the same. Although they do not
typically portray themselves this way in public, I want to respect their
choices and make it known that males both straight and gay are able to
wear makeup and/or women's clothing.
KSY:How can we educate parent's of gay teen's to be open and listening and not take away their emotional and financial support?
T: I think parent's who deprive their children of both their financial and
emotional support for the sole fact that they don't approve of their
child's sexuality is absolutely the most repulsive thing I have ever
heard of in my life. I have tried to think very hard about the
psychological reasons why parents would act this way, but to be honest I
am so far away from reaching any suitable conclusion. I do believe
education plays a huge role in this, however. Parents who fear that
their children will get AIDS, will be outcasted from social activities
or even worse, are extremely uneducated. This, from first hand
experience, is not the case. ANYONE can contract AIDS - straight or
gay. ANYONE can be outcasted from society (in today's world.. the
homophobes ironically enough). It's time to wake up and smell the roses,
darlings. I am trying so hard to find a way of educating parents and
their children that life is NOT black and white. Just because your life
may be different from someone else's, doesn't mean you are a bad
KSY:What more can we do to stop bullying and suicide among gay teen's?
T: I think bullying will, unfortunately, always be apart of our world. We
are basing so much of our self-worth and confidence around superficial
things. We see fabulous lifestyles on TV shows like The Real Housewives
&; Keeping Up With The Kardashians, when in reality 1% of the entire
WORLD lives like that. With this, we put heterosexual relationships high
on a pedestal. I think the best and most effective way to stop teen
suicides is to educate the teens themselves about what bullying really
is. Those who bully other kids, usually the vulnerable ones, have
extreme mental problems themselves. Whether its a ridiculously low
self-esteem or anger towards their parents and society, bullies take
their own mental aggression out on kids who can't or won't stick up for
themselves. I think once kids realize how sad and unhappy bullies
actually are, its much easier to at least understand what their bullying
really means. It's not because you really are the biggest loser in the
entire world, but rather they see a target on which they can release
their own problems. In reality, bullies display 95% of their own
problems onto the kids they bully. For example, a super insecure
football player who is struggling with same sex idealizations of his
own, is much more likely to bully someone for being gay (or seemingly
so) than the football player who is very comfortable and confident of
his attraction to women.
KSY: How do you want to contribute to the gay community? do you want to start your own organization?
T: I would love to start my own organization of some sort. I'm not
sure exactly what it will be, but I know I want to help LGBT youth. The
struggles that we go through in our early years are something that will
stay with us for the rest of our lives, if we let it do so. Taking back
our power is a huge necessity if a child wants to live a happy, sober
life. Society today thinks that if a kid doesn't commit suicide during
middle or high school, they have made it through and everything will be
okay. Unfortunately, this is NOT the case. The trauma obtained in our
early years will stay with us for eternity. It blows my mind how high
the percentages of LGBT people who have drug and alcohol dependency
problems. In my opinion, a life of addiction is worse than suicide. The
pain and suffering that so much of the LGBT community experiences
through drug and alcohol addiction is horrific. I believe educating
children about how to work through the traumatic memories of childhood
is their biggest chance of living a happy life.
KSY: Why did you make a video on Kenneth James W? what are we as a society missing?
T: I made the video because I wanted to wake people up about what is really
going on. It is so horrifying to me that all these kids are committing
suicide, yet so little is being done about it by our government and
schools. I agree we will never be able to stop bullying all together,
but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try. The desperation these kids
experience is truly heartbreaking - and it's time for more people to
understand this. As a society, we are missing so much education. I hate
to use the word therapy, because so many people have such stigmas about
it, but in reality it saves lives. Letting kids know that there IS hope
and a chance for a better life is the biggest possibility for saving
their lives. Life won't get better if you sit around drinking, smoking
weed, or injecting meth all day. It will slowly start getting worse and
worse, until you realize how bad your life has gotten. At this point,
what incentive is there to get clean? Not only do you have all the
problems you were running away from to begin with, but now a whole host
of new ones that come with addiction.
KSY:What are the issues the LGBT community facing?
T: I want to say the largest issue the LGBT community is facing is
having low self-worth. Whether you were raised in a super liberal or
conservative household, society today tells us that being gay is NOT
right. Kids grow up thinking there is something internally wrong with
them. The fact that gay marriage is illegal sends the LGBT community the
entirely wrong message. If being who you are and marrying the person
you love is ILLEGAL, what stops us from doing other illegal activities?
We know that being who we are is not wrong, but since the government is
telling us it is, our sense of right and wrong get completely out of
whack. If being gay is wrong, is meth REALLY that bad or have we just
been brainwashed by the government? Of course, in reality, meth is one
of the most destructive things a person could ever do, but the point is
if the government tells us being who we are is wrong, what stops an LGBT
person from knowing the difference between right and wrong with all the
other laws in our world? From stealing to drug and alcohol usage, we
are able to see the immense self-worth issues the LGBT community faces.
KSY:How can we as a society to education ourselves and reach out to the LGBT community?
T: I think volunteering and working with the community is the best
way to come out and help others. Talking and sharing your story is a
huge part of this. Success stories, as well as failure stories, are
crucial to letting others know what is really going on in our world.
Pretending to live in a world of glamour and artificial happiness gives
everyone the wrong message. BMWs and expensive purses don't bring
happiness in any sense of the word.
KSY:What are your favorite stores to shop at and why?
T:I love shopping at Forever 21 and Nordstroms. I like really girly
outfits and shoes, especially things that a 5 year old girl would wear. I
think because I never had the experience of growing up as a girl and
was therefore denied of all things glittery and pink, I am now obsessed
with being super, super feminine and girly. I love Claires and Icing,
and really anything that has massive amounts of glitter and diamonds
(especially with jewelry!)
KSY:What type of world would you like to live in?
T: I want to live in a world where gender is not even something to talk
about. Girls can be boys and boys can be girls, but most of all society
would not subject them to the heartache that they currently do. For
example, effeminate boys growing up are taught that that's wrong.
Skipping, wearing dresses and makeup is something for GIRLS, not boys.
Which, again, is trauma that if these boys choose to, will take years of
therapy later in life to work out. I want to see the day where there is
no "male" or "female" and people can simply live the lives they want
KSY: What is one of the biggest misconception about the LGBT community that you want to set the record straight on?
T: I think the biggest misconception is that we are all drug and sex
addicts. I hate how so many LGBT people think that in order to show
their acceptance of themselves, they feel the need to dress as complete
hoe-bags. For example, during Pride weekend (which just occurred here in
Minneapolis) alcohol is rampant as well as scantily clad boys and
girls. To me, Pride weekend should consist of SOBER families and people
in the community. Instead, what we get is a bunch of drunk and high
people who hate themselves. It's the absolutely worst image we can give
off to those in and out of our community. It makes me really sad to see
this, but again, until they are ready to get help there is very little
anyone else can do.
KSY:What are 5 things you can't live with out?
T: I cannot live without - relationships (friends and family), makeup, nail polish, music, and alone time.
KSY: If someone wanted to follow in your footsteps what advice would you give them?
T: I would say love yourself and be who you are. It sounds so stupid and
easy, but its the only way to happiness. Again, self-worth (how much you
love yourself) plays a huge role in what I am trying to do. I have made
so much progress in the past year, but still have so much to do. It's a
very long process, but BE WHO YOU ARE and LOVE YOURSELF no matter what
your friends, family or relatives think. I hate when I see people
following famous people (Lady Gaga, Nicki Minaj, etc) so I would never
say to try and be me. I was obsessed with Nicki last year, but quickly
realized when I got sober……. IM NOT HER. I am me, which is even better!
:) You are who you are and if you own it, you will makes tons of REAL
friends and have relationships you never thought were possible.
KSY: What is on thing nobody knows about you?
T: I literally don't think there is anything that no one knows about
me…. which is sad in a way, but also really exciting that I have been
able to let people so closely into my life :)
**Note:Tommy has a Web show On Youtube every Monday where he talks about his life, fashion, issues within the LGBT community. subscribe at :dahoodtranny
I came across Borax while helping my cousin with a science project which detailed making homade crystals. Initially we were going to use boric acid but after googling, we found out that they were completely different and now I had to find who had it. After a google search it lead me to Walmart . So Saturday Morning at 6:00am there I was with my cousin at Walmart.
I didn't truly realize what all Borax can be used for:
I have really been working hard on bringing new exclusives from a variety of different people. And I thought I want to know who are the people that run the fansites. And I was lucky enough that Jen agreed to let me do an exclusive. Jen is a native of Northern Virginia, she is a wife and a stay at home mother. Family is her number one priority, but she still finds time to run a successful fansite brandydaily.com and she builds websites as a freelance developer. Here is our one on one.
KSY:Tell us a little bit about yourself?
am currently a full-time homemaker; I enjoy taking care of my family,
web design and watching my favorite shows on TV. I'm really laid back at
times. One side of me that doesn't come out a lot, well I can say it’s a
side I don't share openly with everyone, is my silly side. I love to
laugh and make people laugh. I love to travel as well; I've been from NY
to LA, even lived in Germany for 3 years
KSY:Why did you chose Brandy to create a fan-site around? How did you get started?
have always been a fan of Brandy, but at the time there were many other
fan-sites about her. I was later approached by a friend who wanted to
start her own Brandy website, so we teamed up and created brandydaily.com.
I just felt at that time, Brandy could really use all the supporters
she could get. After her well publicized accident, it looked as if
people were trying to really tear Brandy down, but we had a different
agenda. My partner and I disbanded after about a year of working
together. September 2010, I reopened and I've been managing this site on
my own for almost two years.
KSY:When you started your site in 2008 were their a lot of fan-sites? Describe the web then and now? J:Back
in 2008, there were tons of fan-sites. Between 2006-2008 that part of
the internet was booming. Now in 2012 fan-sites have become somewhat a
part of the artists marketing scheme, the fan sites update sometimes
faster and quicker than the official websites.
KSY:How do you find your brandy content? Takes us through the process of
how you select what goes up on your site?(day in the life of Jen)
use various search engines, Brandy's Twitter, and her official website
for news. For photographs I use various sources which I will not share
lol. When I post news, I post it as if I were her, how would I feel
about this situation or that situation. For example, you will NEVER see
me post pictures of her daughter. I just feel that is a really private
part of her life that should not be put out there without her consent. I
always want to make it a point to respect her privacy while still
KSY:You have a team at Brandy daily can you introduce us to your team
and their roles within the site? Did you have a team in the beginning?
I do have team, Jayson, Kia & Jamel. They are like family, Jayson
is my partner in crime, like my right hand. He used to update on a daily
but now he's more on the creative end, coming up with ideas for us to
better the site.Jayson started a different activity for everyday of the
week, like “Tuesday Inspirations”, or “Remember WHENsdays”. Kiaruns our
“Fashion Fridays”and talks about Brandy's fashion and how to go about
getting the exact outfit or close to it. Jamel is another team member
that updates the sites news and he is a big part of the online promotion
team, he goes hard for Brandy. I appreciate my team so much!
KSY:Your site is the #1 source for Brandy news. Do you have a personal
relationship with Brandy? has she seen the site? What has her reaction
been? Have you meet her or interviewed her? J:I
have been blessed with the opportunity to get to know brandy personally
and yes she has seen the site! She told me that she loved the site and
it was one of her favorite sites to visit. I have yet to meet her in
person, but I know it will happen.
**Update she finally met Brandy at R&B Live in D.C.at a live Concert"Amazing is an understatement, this was my & Kia’s first live show! We have been hardcore fans for years
I am glad that I had the opportunity to go to the event, I have to
thank my lucky stars for making all this happen for me (They know who they are)"-Jen
KSY:How do you keep the site innovative and fresh? How many hours a week do you put into the BD?
change my layout every few months to keep things fresh, try to add a
few new things from time to time to the layout. I spend a lot of hours
working on BrandyDaily. I don't mind it at all because I love keeping
up with the person that is the focus of the site.
KSY:What blogger/sites has cited you as a source for Brandy news?
KSY:What is the hardest thing about having a site about a celebrity?
hardest thing for me is the negative fans. They attack you and the
celebrity when they don't get their way. I think some of them just want
too much from the artist. I believe they should let the artist do what
they do, which is sing, give us great music, and live their own lives.
KSY:How have you found ways to draw traffic to your site as a pose to other Brandy fan sites?
J:I honestly don't know, I just work really hard and hope that it’s received well.
KSY:How has social media played a part in Brandy Daily's success?
J:Social media has played a huge role in the success of BrandyDaily.Twitter and FaceBook are the most common ways for us to reach Brandy's
massive fan base.
KSY:If you could give advice to someone who wanted to follow in your footsteps what would you tell them?
J:I would say work hard, love what you do and stay humble.
KSY:How do balance family,freelancing and BD?
is first. They are my priority, nothing comes before them. Freelancing
is something I do if I need a little extra money, so it’s not too often I
do that and BrandyDaily is a hobby. You know how some women spend money
shopping or whatever it is that they do, instead of doing that I run
KSY:How does your site stand out among the other Brandy fan-sites?
think that all of the Brandy sites are great sites. I believe what sets
mine apart from the rest is that I try to cater to her fans in any way
possible. I letting them know what’s going on with Brandy as much as is
humanly and respectfully possible.
KSY:If you could say something
anything to people who are not currently following BD what would you say?
J:You really should follow because we are always updating on a "as its happening" basis.
next for Brandy Daily?
can’t tell the future, but I plan to continue to work hard and never
stop. I want to make sure Brandy knows we will be right there supporting
her whether its music, television shows, or movies.
Thanks to Jennifer and The Brandy Daily Team.
I wanted to bring new talent on KSY and I was searching the internet when I came across 9th hour on unsigned.com a site for upcoming talent. I did further research and emailed the group and David Lin was so gracious to allow me to do an Exclusive with the band. 9th hour is from Smithville, MO they have been performing across the Midwest since 2004. They are releasing a new cd at the end of the this month. Here is our Exclusive.
KSY:What's the origin of the name of the band?
9th hr:The name 9th
Hour is a reference found in Luke 22:42-42 – Jesus was on the cross from
the 6th to the 9th hour, when He breathed his last and accept the
punishment for sin for all mankind.
KSY: Can you introduce us to the group? what instrument does each band member play?
9th hr:9th Hour for the
last 6 years has been David Lin (Guitars, lead vocals),Dee Dee Lin (my
wife - vocals , keys), Dan Allen (Electric Guitar, vocals, keys), Mike
Allen (drums), Ben Richards (bass, vocals) - the original members were
David, Dee Dee, and Dan with Bryant Babbit on bass and Brandon Hylton on
KSY:How long have you known each other? How did you meet?
9th hr:We’ve known each other for about 10 years. Dan and Mike are
brothers...so they’ve known each other all their life. We meet at
church (Grace Community Church, Smithville, MO) I have been leading
worship there for about 9 years – the others serve with me as the primary praise team for Sunday services.
KSY:When you formed 9th hour what inspired you to to make music together?Who are your major influences?
9th hr:9th Hour was the brain child of Dan Allen and me. We both love music
and have played in bands throughout most of our adult life. We decided
to take our message outside of the walls of the church. Jesus Christ,
first and foremost is the most significant influence. Our motivation to
make music and play is totally different than when I played in a bar
band. It’s not so much about personal fame or fortune, but more about
sharing the Good News.
KSY:Are you a member of any music organizations?
9th hr:9th Hour are members of Indieheaven (www.indieheaven.com) and Kingcat Christian Music (www.kingcatchristianmusic.com),
a Kansas City based independent Christian music community. Dan and I
both are registered BMI songwriters and I also carry my catalog on CCLI
KSY:What advice do you have for people who want to form their own band?
9th hr:Set goals early on and make sure that you are all pulling in the same
direction. Most bands start of with people that just want to have fun
and make music. If you want to evolve the music into more of a
vocational endeavor, then you should have clear understandings and
formal agreements early in the process. It will help to eliminate any
disagreements later on.
KSY :Could you briefly describe the music-making process?
9th hr:Good question. I don’t know that there is a set formula to making
music. Most have influences that will drive their style and sound. In
the writing process, I take great care in the lyric writing. I labor
over it probably more than the music part. As a Christian band, the
message is really the only thing that sets us apart from the rest of the
music out there. So the lyrical content is important. I believe that
Christian music is not a genre, as most people think...music is just
music – the Christian view is simply the writer’s perspective on the
same things that secular writers write about. When I do write the music
and lyrics usually come together. Sometimes a line will spark
inspiration, other times it may be an instrument hook line or chord
progression that kicks things off. From there, we take a song into the
practice room and we hash it out until we feel it is presentable for
performance and recording. Dan has a great producer mind and hears
things in the music that I would miss. It’s a great combination.
KSY:How has your music evolved since you first began playing together?
9th hr:Although our sound is pretty much trademark for 9th Hour, meaning when
you hear us you know exactly who it is, we have gotten better as players
and songwriters. Initially, our sound gravitated toward more a classic
rock vibe, but overtime it has become a little more modern.
KSY:What has been your biggest challenge as a band? Have you been able to overcome that challenge? If so how?
9th hr:Managing band affairs is the hardest thing...the business side to what
we do is the most difficult. As an independent band we do not have the
luxury to hire a manager, lawyer, booking agent, or roadies. We do it
all ourselves. We do get some help from time to time, but general
everything rests on our shoulders. I have had to learn a lot about the
music industry to survive for as long as we have. Coordinating
schedules with full time jobs and families is a difficult part...I’ve
had to turn down several opportunities over the years because someone
couldn’t get off work, or had a birthday or anniversary they had to
attend. Running a band is like herding cats!
KSY:If you could tour with any artist or band who would it be and why?
9th hr:I think we would all pick someone different, but since I’m answering
these questions I would love to hang with Casting Crowns and Chris Tomlin. Both have been personal favorites and influence my music.
KSY:You are currently working on an new album, how is it different from perfect timing(2006) and cover me(2010)?
9th hr:Well, one thing is that life has over run some of the band members and
there will be some changes coming on the horizon. Our life
circumstances, may cause new personnel to be located. Today, I just
finished tracking vocals and guitars for two new songs that will be on
the next project. They will be digitally released from our “store” on
Indieheaven hopefully by the end of July. The sound is
characteristically 9th Hour, but we are pulling out all the production
stops to make this fresh and exciting.
9th hr:Dan Allen and I have handled the majority of songwriting. Dee Dee has penned a few lyrics and often co-writes with me.
KSY:Do you have any upcoming projects?
9th hr:Just the current recording project. We haven’t decided on a name yet,
or the length of the album, but my plan is to finish the songs quickly
and release them digitally. I’m not sure if I will wait for a full
length project before I press discs, but yet I”m leaning toward a five
song EP. Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of solo acoustic gigs, which I
will continue to do.
There is a very popular song entitled"Amen" by Meek Mills featuring Drake [Click Here for Lyrics] and to be honest, the first time I heard it, I was shocked at what I was hearing . Everyone has their opinion on this controversial song. It has even sparked [For completely story]. I felt that the song was blasphemous and disrespectful to use Amen in that content.
Last night my boyfriend and I were talking about a post that he read in the Huffington Post about how we may have bugs already in our food. The conversation initially came about a month ago when we were going to have grits for breakfast when he notice that there were little bugs in our grits and he was wondering how did they get in there? I said maybe they were packed in with the grits.
According to the Huffington Post :Simply put, there has to be a certain amount of bugs or bug parts in
your food before it's deemed unsafe, but a little bit is totally fine.
For example, manufacturers can't allow more than 225 bug parts in 225
grams of pasta. Any less than 225 parts in that batch is ok for the FDA.
I don't know about you but that makes my skin crawl, to know that I am eating bugs in my food. On the other hand Pesticide's are a lot more harmful then eating bugs. I guess this is something that we are force to live with.
If you wondering what type of bugs you are eating in your food [Click Here]
I have to share with you something that will keep you cool all summer it is Snapple Sobert Freeze Pops
with tempertaures reaching the 90's. I needed something that would keep me cool so I went to the Dollar Tree and tried Snapple Sobert Bars 10ct for a $1.00. Let me say that you taste the favors. Let me know what you think once you have tried it for yourself?
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